Loyalty and Betrayal

An old quote about loyalty

If loyalty is, and always has been, perceived as obsolete, why do we continue to praise it? Because loyalty is essential to the most basic things that make life livable. Without loyalty there can be no love. Without loyalty there can be no family. Without loyalty there can be no friendship. Without loyalty there can be no commitment to community or country. And without those things, there can be no society. My loyalty is fading as to give it I must also receive it.

Loyalty has always been key to me in all aspects of my life and betrayal the means of totally tearing apart those relations and often my own sense of self.

I am a public figure on many levels and have recently gone through a difficult 4 months and a divorce that was widely publicized . I was hospitalized and told I would not survive. I did miraculously. Upon being discharged my husband filed a restraining order and a divorce without any conversation. I left the hospital and never went home.

He then disseminated my medical records with malicious intent via phone, email and social media to do nothing more than hurt me. This was true betrayal…something so strong that I had never felt before.

Why is it that someone who loves you one month can become so vindictive the next? The answer is not so simple. Often it us the build up of many things through the relationship, hurt, cheating, lack of communication or simply fading from each other’s hearts. Sometimes it is internalized anger and even fear.

Instead of communication to the person we are closest, we push them away and strike out. We hurt them with the pain that we are feeling. This is so destructive for both but more so for the one doing the hurting as their hurt is so much greater and will stay with them so much longer.

They need help.

Relations are never easy. They take effort, they take talking, they take sharing and caring. Once that is gone, so is loyalty and trust.

To finish my story, it was challenging but I am so much happier now. He, he is clearly still in pain. I hope he gets help before something worse happens

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